Dealing with Difficult People

Dealing with different types of people is pretty much what I do on a daily basis. People have different faces, different culture, different background, different principles, different values, different sources of income, and others. These tell us that we have to learn to be flexible not only because it is our obligation to do so but because we want to learn more about them. Somehow, it’s with very difficult people that I tend to become hesitant. It sometimes is so hard to open up and be comfortable with them when they’re too far from reach.

I think I have had enough of these people. In the family, I deal with a person who refuses to see that there are people surrounding him and that he actually lives with them. With friends, there is someone who denies that she has been making the wrong decisions and any advice won’t help her get through her life. At work, I dealt with incompetent workmates who simply come to work for the pay and not for the experience. I thought mainly of these factors while I was reflecting and seeing how I can overcome this weakness. It’s not that I don’t respect their stand but in business, in order for me to know how I can address issues, I have to know their needs and with their walls, I would always be hindered to move.

It’s with difficult people that I am most vulnerable to, maybe because no matter how hard I try to ignore my opinion on professional matters, personal issues don’t fail to join the picture. It’s something that I need to work on. Despite my previous experience I still think that I am not as productive as I should be. Perhaps I need to start thinking about a different job but I’m not taking that seriously right now. I want to simply express my thoughts as it has been tough lately. Without my virtual assistant, I don’t think I can survive another day. However, I’m still hoping that in time I can deal with them without fretting.

Stop Complaining

Do you complain about how you never seem to have enough time on your hands and have so much to do? Do you complain about not spending enough time with your family? Do you complain about spending more time behind your desk than you do at home? Do people complain about how much you complain?

Are you constantly whining and complaining just about everything? Do you feel like your complaints are solid but are left unheard? Do you complain about your employees and their performance and dedication and lack thereof to friends? Do you think about complaining some more just to let it out of your chest? Are you having trouble sleeping because of the growing list of complaints? Take a breather and stop complaining.

Business is hard and times are harder. Do you really want to spend all your time complaining or thinking of more things to complain about?

The key is to relax and stop complaining. Assess the situation and see how you can address these complaints sensibly. If you have trouble seeing the bigger picture, have a friend come in and help you.

Complaining and to this degree is harmful to one's health. Stress is never a good thing no matter how some people argue this. It has been shown that stress contributes to major and varied respiratory problems. Stress also leads to sleep deprivation which in turn leads to serious health complications.

When you feel the urge to complain, take a deep breath. Think of something good and place yourself where you can think of ways how to make the situation better.

The author is a (SME) subject matter expert of Voiceville Communications, Inc. We are a business process outsourcing provider that helps you keep your business complaints to a minimum. Find out how we can help your business.

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Death of Brittany Murphy

Yesterday I was going through the tabloids and I read something about the death of this young lady, Brittany Murphy. I’m not very familiar with Hollywood stars but her face is not something that is easily forgotten; because I once thought that there was something awfully odd about her. If I can still remember right, it was the way she talked. It was a comment most people have towards celebrities and I’m not trying to defend myself. I’m just saying it has got something to do with the relationship of the public and public figures. Speaking of which, I’m definitely shocked about her death because she’s 32 and the cause is not even known to us yet. The fact that the LA coroner is starting the autopsy already makes it a lot easier to digest because at least we get to answer these questions soon.

I have this strange feeling every time someone dies early. For me it’s really horrible and confusing. I know that death is something we should all acknowledge but the fact remains: no one wants to die early. Even if someone comes up and says that dying should be welcomed with open arms, I wouldn’t buy it. Dying cancer patients who have accepted their destiny are merely shaking off the fear of actually stepping into the door of death. Although I have not experienced this personally, death is a force so real, it doesn’t even give you a split of a second to glance back. That should be the most painful thing in the world which is why I feel so sorry for Brit’s death. Her ex boyfriend Ashton who is now with Demi Moore is even overwhelmed over this tragic event. Whether we’re stars or not, life is equally important because that’s all we have and once we are put away, there’s no turning back.

While I’m writing this and I’m thinking about her, I get goose bumps knowing I’m just two years older than her. No one deserves to die like that. I’m just saying that no matter what the autopsy says, she had every right to live. We all do. Or so I think.